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New Year of Beginnings

Starting Over

“I am looking forward to starting over,” she told me after we had spoken a few minutes about our plans for the New Year. I had only known this woman for a short time when she spilled out her hurts.

“Yes,” I said, “It is a time of celebration of all of the dreams you have for the future.”

“I want everything that went wrong to end,” she told me. “I want a new beginning.”

Don’t we all feel that way to various degrees? There is such a tendency for us to rehearse our troubles and to remind ourselves of everything we did wrong. The more we dwell on these things, the more we lose focus on the place we want to be in the future.

I know you have dreams and hopes of what you want to accomplish this year, as I do. But, think about the effect of your actions.

When we rehearse our troubles, we lose sight of our blessings. We get on a treadmill of doing and saying the same things over and over until even we are bored at our own problems. Instead of rehearsing our problems, let’s review the past year and see what we did right.


The more we focus on the successes of the year, the more we can diminish the exaggerations of the mind that lead to rehearsing. The rehearsal of bad things usually attaches itself to individuals who become targets of bad feelings such as anger and bitterness. To review means to see the overall picture. If the entire picture turns out to be beyond repair, then it is time to…


Decide what you want in life and re-establish the boundaries. What and who you let into your life determines your emotional well-being. Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend wrote in their book, Boundaries, “A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle.

Re-establish your faith in God, in yourself, in others. Then you are capable of re-establishing your goals and plans.


Let your vision for the future renew by refreshing your mind with healthy thoughts and ridding yourself of things that drag you down. The New Year should be a Renew Year. Whether you are dealing with breast cancer or other things that distress you, there is hope for a future for you.

In the news today I heard the tragic news of the death of John Travolta‘s son. That is a pain no parent should ever have to bare. I met John Travolta a year ago when he hosted a fundraiser for NBCF in Phoenix at the Super Bowl. I knew when I met him that he possessed a rare quality of being a caring person. He had a way of connecting with me that made me feel he was listening to every word I spoke. Click here to read my blog about meeting him.

I’m sure there is no one who needs a year of new beginnings more than John Travolta and his family. Life sometimes brings us sorrow, but living life is realizing that sorrow does not have to control us. If John was in this room right now, I would offer him a hug and a kind word.

The comfort we bring others helps to renew our own vision.

Let your New Year begin with keeping the faith and keeping the joy in your heart. I hope you have a year filled with all good things, with happiness, with plans for your future, and with dreams fulfilled.

Thought for Today:

“The distance is nothing; it’s only the first step that is difficult.”—Madame Du Deffand

Live Life,


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