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The Upside of Anger

A couple of years ago a movie came out called The Upside of Anger, starring Kevin Costner and Joan Allen. It wasn’t a particularly good movie, but it had an interesting premise at the core of the plot. A woman’s husband mysteriously disappeared without a trace of explanation. Coincidentally, his beautiful, young secretary left the company and moved to Europe at the exact same time. The natural assumption of the woman was that he ran off with his secretary.

The Core of Anger

Here’s where the core of the plot came out. The woman was so angry at her husband that she screamed and stormed around, making her grown daughters and everyone in sight miserable. Her anger overtook her to the point that it controlled her, leaving her life in shambles.

One day she was on the wooded lot near their home and she stumbled across a pit that her husband had fallen into. As he lay dead, she realized the foolishness of her anger rampage and had to pick up the pieces of her life that she had personally scattered to the wind.

Coping With Intense Anger

I thought about that movie after a woman recently asked me how to cope with the intense anger she was experiencing from her bout with breast cancer and the debilitating treatments she was suffering. There is not a quick and easy answer to an inquiry like that. In fact, I have thought about it for several days before attempting to answer her.

Removing Anger From Your Life

Meanwhile, I heard a woman on television in an interview talk about forgiving a convicted murderer of her daughter’s death. The woman’s family was mad at her and couldn’t understand why she showed compassion for the scum that killed their family member.

The woman told the interviewer, “I forgave him so that when I thought about the terrible event, I could remove the rage from my mind.”

That is a powerful thought, to take control of her out-of-control emotions, and place boundaries around her mind. I think that is what you must first do when you are angry at the world for your plight in life at getting breast cancer. Put boundaries around your mind. I’m not suggesting that you pretend everything is fine. Yes, you did get breast cancer. But, breast cancer does not control you. You have the power of control in your hands by refusing to let it destroy everything in sight.

Turn your heart toward your Maker. God cares about you in your current situation, no matter how bad it is. Open your heart to the miraculous miracles of His love.

Turn your expectations toward the good. If you look for the good in all things, you will find a place of peace and emotional restoration.

Living the Life

I’ll give you an example of this. My 89 year old mother-in-law is on dialysis treatment for kidney failure. She is near death, but you would never know by her attitude. She lights up the dialysis center with her presence three times a week and makes people happy to see her as she goes through arduous treatments. She talks football with the attendants and cheers up the downcast. I marvel at her faith in God, her attitude of victory in her darkest hour of life, and her unfailing hope.

What I am giving you today is a way out of your despair, a door of hope. With your desire to find the good in all circumstances and God’s help, you can have victory in your life. That is truly living life.

Thought for Today:

“To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness.” – Robert Muller

Live Life,


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