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That’s No Rolex, Ma’m

My husband, Neal, and I were running errands last Saturday mid-morning at a nearby mall when I noticed my watch was stuck on 7:20. I had purchased the watch at Chico’s, a women’s clothing store, known for its stylish, but inexpensive clothing and jewelry.

A clerk at the mall gave us what sounded like easy directions to a store where we could get a battery.

“I think if we walk a little further,” I said, “we’ll find the Fix-it Shop for my watch.” We had been coming to this North Dallas mall for eight years and neither of us had ever heard of the store.

“There it is,” I said as we rounded the last corner down a corridor. The store had little more than a short counter and two straight chairs in the corner of an 8×11 room. I gave the attendant my watch to replace the battery and sat down to wait while Neal headed for the nearest sporting goods store.

A young couple lingered around the counter talking to the attendant for a few minutes, then stood waiting patiently while the attendant went behind a curtain. In a few minutes the attendant broke through the mysterious curtain and briskly walked up to the counter. Looking straight at me, he yelled, “YOUR CHICO’S WATCH IS READY, MA’M.”

As I approached the counter, I sputtered around trying to think of something clever to say while the couple gave me the “one eyebrow raised” look. With a rapid exit, I was able to leave without laughing. The scene was straight out of Saturday Night Live.

Looking for Good in All the Right Places

You’re wondering how this all ties to breast cancer, aren’t you? Here it is.

When you get breast cancer, people are sympathetic about your plight and want you to recover, but they don’t have to know every detail of your treatment to get the message of how difficult it is for you. Some things are better left unsaid.

Before you get touchy and say you’re not going to tell anybody anything, let’s stop and talk a minute. You are dealing with heavy duty stuff and people hurt for you just thinking about what you are going through. While there are times when it is appropriate to talk to those close to you, most acquaintances only want to know about your progression, not every detail of your treatment. If you find it hard to regulate your “Tell-it-all-ometer,” think of the Chico’s story and laugh a minute before you say anything.

Try Not to Over-talk

Sometimes people have a tendency to over-talk their troubles. They feel they must fill the air with words to find a way to balance their lives again. Matthew Kelly, in his book The Rhythm of Life, talks about how we must withdraw ourselves from the noise of the world and spend time every day for a period of silence to learn to hear the voice within. I have heard several people say that when they got cancer, the best version of themselves emerged, as Matthew Kelly suggests. That can only happen when you let go of the pain of the experience and look for good things to happen.

Let’s start looking for ways to turn the experience of breast cancer around to draw from the depths of the well of our souls. Let silence be a daily friend.

Thought for Today:

“Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself and know that everything in this life has a purpose.” – Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

Live Life,


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