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Almost Happy

Push the Obstacles Aside

Father Alfred D’Souza gives a realistic definition of living life with these words, “For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin… real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way. Something to be got through first, some unfinished business, times still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.”

How many of us have had similar thoughts. If I can marry the right person, I’ll be happy. If I get to move into that two-story house down the street, I’ll have everything I need. If I have two children, a girl and a boy, my life will be complete. If I pay off my debts, I can start living life.
Some people defer their happiness, waiting to fulfill their wish list, and never truly find the happiness they seek.

Happiness is Not a Reward

Happiness is not the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. It is not simply a reward for everything going your way. The deepest happiness you can feel is when you live your life to bring happiness to the lives of others instead of having the universe revolve around you.

Make the Hurting Stop

Breast cancer can seem like the greatest obstacle of all, having a life-threatening disease with no certainty of the future. When I faced breast cancer, despair overwhelmed me to the point that I felt as though a big, black hole was in the center of my body. Naturally, I was sad over the loss of a part of my body, but no person or thing could fill the void. When I stopped dwelling on my own hurts and devoted my time and energy to helping others who had faced loss from their breast cancer, my own pain stopped.

One day I realized the hole was healed and replaced with a compassion for others. The more I gave of myself, the overflow inside of me spilled out in the form of the joy of living. Everything looked different to me. Living in the now was my new way of life. I found joy in the simple things of life.

Live in the Moment

As I look back over the past few years that I have been cancer free, I continue to live in the moment. Life changes, but my inner happiness remains. Every day is a new day, every opportunity has new challenges, and every person who comes into my life is a new relationship that I hope will remain.

How you face breast cancer will mean the difference in your future. You make the choice. Will breast cancer make you bitter or better? I choose living life to its fullest. Will you join me?

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Thought for Today:

“I arise in the morning torn between a desire to improve (or save) the world and a desire to enjoy (or savor) the world. This makes it hard to plan the day.”
E.B. White

Live life,


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One Response to Almost Happy
  1. Damion Renaud
    January 10, 2012 | 6:02 pm

    Hey, thanks for the post. Want more.

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